I was talking to a few people today and the subject of dealing with stress came up. The exact question was, “How do you deal with stress?” When I heard the response coming out of my mouth I wondered if they were thinking, “Is she for real?” I wish they had asked me because my response would have been, “Hell yes!”
Let me explain further. Stress can only do what we allow it to do. That means we’re relinquishing our control. For many years I allowed situations to determine my attitude or response. At this point in my life I don’t. Basically, despite the situation I don’t allow stress to take control of me.
Allowing stress to win creates additional stressful situations for us. I have learned to look for that silver lining in the darkest sky. It took many years for me to do this and I refuse to travel backwards without seeing the good that can evolve out of even the worst situation. We adopted a puppy with severe separation anxiety. I don’t get frustrated with him. I think of where he used to be before us. To have been alive for less than a year and have four to five different residences including a shelter warrants him being anxious.
With my life I look at the current situation and compare it to where I’ve been also. There is no comparison to the person I was twenty years ago because of where I’ve been in life. Actually, even seven years ago. In life we can’t grow if we don’t learn how to bob, bend, weave, and search in the darkest moments for the bright outcome.
If I had remained that person I firmly believe that BrookLyn’s Journey or The Awakening of Graye Moon wouldn’t have been published. Our dreams can’t survive in a world where stress guides us. How do I deal with stress? I pray, pray, pray, and often pray again. Then I get lost inside of the stories I love to create and the possibilities of creating things I never knew were a part of my dreams.
I am in no way perfect. But unless it deals with the loss of life, none of this stuff is worth me getting lost in it. As Jill Scott says, “I’m living my life like its golden.” Is it? Not always but each moment that I breathe I live as if it is…
Update on the eye infection: it’s still here but I can see!